Adolescence is a time of transition in people that can cause certain internal conflicts that are also shown abroad. This is why it is so important that parents are aware that they will face many changes in mood and behavior throughout adolescence. Nobody said that it will be easy, but we can warn you that it is necessary for its good integral development.
It is essential that parents face these changes in a healthy way and always with confidence and security both in ourselves and in our adolescent children. Parents are, in the first instance, the reference to be followed by their children, even in adolescence, when they show an attitude of distance from their parents. It is part of development … parents are for them, the experience, wisdom and support they need to overcome the internal conflicts that they will experience … they are their mirror in which to look at themselves.
When They Go Into Adolescence
When your child reaches adolescence, he stops being a child under the absolute protection of his parents and begins to see the real world more closely. This can be scary as your teenager only wants to separate from you to form his own identity, but is still too immature to function freely in society. He wants to be an adult, but he is still a child who is only growing.
At this stage, adolescents will have to face experiences with risks, dangers … and without sufficient knowledge, conflicts of some seriousness are likely to arise. Therefore, prevention will always be the best way. Parents must be self-critical with themselves to take responsibility for their actions and that adolescents learn from this wonderful example. A constructive attitude must be maintained throughout this time.
Some Changes That Cannot Be Ignored
There are some changes to be aware of in adolescence. The most common are the following:
- Lack Of Communication. First you should know that your child wants to keep talking to you, he is only experimenting with new forms of communication. When he gets angry, it is not with you, it is with himself and he needs you to understand himself, even if he rejects you at first.
- Rebellion Against The Rules. An adolescent who is forming his identity does not want rules that make him feel self-conscious … but at the same time he needs those rules to feel safe and know how to act. It is essential to find the balance between rules and limits, with consequences or rewards.
- Bad Manners. Your lovable son may now have turned into a teenager who talks badly or gives you defiant looks. It is essential to maintain a great empathy with all the emotional turmoil you are feeling. It is also essential to make him see the importance of respect for himself but also for any person. Bad manners are never compatible with an emotionally balanced adult. It is not about punishing lightly, but about guiding you to the right path.
- Bad Grades. It is also likely that in the face of all these emotional changes, academic performance is affected in some way. It is essential to be aware that an unhappy teenager does not perform well academically. If you drop grades, do not look at those numbers, look more at how your child is emotionally to find solutions as soon as possible.
As you can see, they are really common problems, but parents must be aware in order to find the solution before the problem becomes something serious.